Life Coaching for Gay Men

In my long career working almost exclusively with gay men and gay male couples (32 years in 2024), I’ve developed a series of strategies for Life Coaching that help gay men close the gap between how life is, and how you would like it to be, in important areas of you life such as your Health, Mental Health, Career, Finances, Relationships, Sex, and Social LIfe.

My 2013 book, “Self-Empowerment: Have the Life You Want!” is in introductory to these life domains. In Life Coaching, I tailor the coaching to your needs, and we focus on the areas of your life – personally, or professionally – where you would like improvements, growth, or changes, incrementally over time, that ultimately help you achieve your vision of your Ideal Personal Self, and/or your Ideal Professional Self.

Life Coaching is kind of like a “buddy system” that provides overall motivation, support, and accountability, but also discussion of how you can identify and implement changes to your thinking, attitude, outlook, behavior, knowledge, or habits that help to overcome whatever obstacles are keeping you from reaching your full potential, at every stage of your lifespan, from being a young man to middle age to senior.

Everyone wants a high quality of life, but gay men have specific challenges due to growing up in a generally homophobic world that straight people don’t have. We often have to forge our way into adulthood with an intact self-esteem despite the hardships we might have faced growing up, from rejection or invalidation from our parents or Family of Origin, to discrimination or other hardships as adults, that are based in others’ prejudice and injustice against us.

In Life Coaching, we confidently, and even defiantly, reclaim our Quality of Life to not only thrive “despite” being gay, but to thrive and enjoy life even more because of it.

Life Coaching is broad, because the goals we work on are determined by you. My guidance as a long-term professional with exposure, experience, and knowledge in so many areas of life over my decades of experience supporting gay men puts me as a consultant to help apply my knowledge and skills from many years of work – in the corporate workplace, in non-profit organizations, with activism, with medical challenges, with relationship knowledge, and with identifying and applying the internal resources (such as drive, courage, determination, focus) and external resources (books, ideas, videos, lectures) -- toward your goals.

We start with an assessment of the Domains of Life you have, and we determine together what’s going well for you, and where we might work to see incremental improvement for now and for the long term.

Working at whatever frequency you like (weekly, biweekly, monthly, annually), I provide support for you reaching your goals, and I also provide accountability so that you don’t lose focus. You keep a consistent energy and effort in support of what’s really important to you to achieve. Harvard University research found that people achieve more with support for reaching their goals than they ever could on their own.

That’s what Life Coaching does, and most people find the investment is worth it, especially when they feel heard, understood, and validated for their quality of life specifically as a gay man, in collaboration with another gay man who “gets it” in our unique culture and specific subset of the broader LGBTQ+ community.