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For Gay Men Ready for What Comes Next

Coaching for gay men navigating midlife, relationships, identity, and second-act life transitions.

Many gay men reach a point where life looks successful on the outside — yet something feels stalled, uncertain, or quietly unsatisfying.

You may understand yourself — but your life still isn’t where you want it to be.

I help gay men move forward in their relationships, careers, and personal lives through focused, experience-based coaching designed specifically for gay men.

Coaching focuses on direction, action, and real change—not just insight. 

Over 30 Years Working with Gay Men

Coaching for relationships, identity, success, and life direction.  

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Ken Howard, LCSW, CST

What are you trying to change in your life—and what’s been getting in the way?

Gay men hire me when they know something needs to change—but aren’t sure how to move forward.
This is focused coaching to help you make real, lasting changes in your life.

Many men contact me at this stage—when things aren’t falling apart, but they know something needs to change.

You don’t have to wait until things get worse to start improving your life.

You May Be Here Because…

• Your relationship or dating life feels stuck
• Success hasn’t brought the satisfaction you expected
• You’re facing a major life transition
• Motivation or confidence has slipped
• You’re asking yourself what comes next in life

You don’t have to figure this out alone.

You don’t have to figure this out alone.
Start with a 15-minute consultation.
Text/call: 310-339-5778
Email:  Ken@GayCoachingLA.com

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Meet Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, a gay men's specialist clinical social worker and life, career, executive, relationship, sex, and healthy aging coach for over 30 years.

(via phone/webcam: 310-339-5778)

I’ve worked with gay men for over 30 years, helping them navigate relationships, career decisions, identity, and major life transitions with clarity and direction.  

An LGBT-affirmative coach, and more specifically, a gay men’s specialist coach, is equipped to help you in ways that are deeper, more nuanced, and ultimately more effective than even the most well-meaning straight-identified provider can. 

There are cultural issues, socio-political dynamics, historical contexts, men’s psychology considerations, terminology, academic knowledge, community insights, current events, and other details of “cultural competency” to work specifically with gay men that I offer, that only decades of clinical social work experience, writing, research, and personal perspective living as and among the LGBT community can provide.

  • Specializing in Complex Life Challenges
  • Convenient Online Services (Zoom, phone, worldwide)
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Ways We Can Work Together

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Life

My Life Coaching services specifically designed for gay men can help you close the gap between how life is, and how you would like it to be, in important areas like your health, career, finances, sex, relationships, social life, and family.
My Life Coaching services specifically designed for gay men can help you close the gap between how life is, and how you would like it to be, in important areas like your health, career, finances, sex, relationships, social life, and family. Through a combination of support, challenge, accountability, and motivation for incremental gains over time, you move toward your goals and go further with coaching than you could on your own.
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Career

Career Coaching helps you to stay on track for the arc of your career in the short term and the long term to do work that you find both meaningful and lucrative.
By being coached on making the most of your commercial professional skills, and your unique interests and talents, a career that is both emotionally and financially fulfilling is possible.
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Executive

Today’s busy executives have a lot of workplace responsibility for productivity, leadership, and managing both finances and staff. Gay men have additional challenges with these in a diverse organizational cultural context.
Executive Coaching helps you be at your best skills and leadership, so that your staff and your organization are at their best.
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Relationship

Relationship Coaching differs from couples therapy in that therapy involves helping someone who needs treatment for even a mild diagnosable psychiatric disability or stressor and how their partner can help with that.
Relationship Coaching is focused on emotional, domestic, sexual, social, career, community, and family goals for you and your partner to work toward for a secure future. This can include sex coaching and education, with my background as a certified sex educator from AASECT, the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists, one of the few gay men nationwide who hold this two-year training credential.
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Healthy Aging

I have a special background in studying developmental psychology and how to age successfully through the lifespan.
Aging doesn’t have to mean decline; Healthy Aging Coaching helps you cope with challenges at any age to learn to enjoy each time in your life.
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Sexual Education

With my background as an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, while I can only provide sex therapy as such for individuals, couples, and polycules in California, where I am licensed to practice psychotherapy.
With my background as an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, while I can only provide sex therapy as such for individuals, couples, and polycules in California, where I am licensed to practice psychotherapy, the work that I do with people in other states or countries draws on my concurrent role as a long-time sex educator.
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See What My Clients Have To Say
"Ken is a consummate professional, combining the best in common sense, practical business coaching. There are few of his ilk. I have become a better and more secure manager of my own life with his help. I recommend him to friends, particularly gay professionals who seek improved personal and interpersonal skills and business acumen. Ken wears both hats with considerable skill and warmth."
K.E., gay male corporate CEO
“Ken Howard is more than a coach: he’s a consummate, caring professional who has helped me and my business through challenging personal and economic times.”
Ken E., GWM CE0, 52
“Ken is bright and motivated, and a real professional. He has build a great reputation and practice through community involvement and smart marketing, but most of all through the high quality of service that he provides.”
Stephan Roth, Principal, Stephan A. Roth Strategic Communications
“I’ve worked with Ken Howard, LCSW, in the HIV community in Los Angeles. He’s one of the most astute coaches I know here in L.A. in regard to the lives of gay men and people with HIV.”
Tony Valenzuela, Writer, community organizer
“I came to Ken because I had suddenly and unexpectedly lost my partner, John, to a massive heart attack. John had been my soulmate and the great love of my life. My grief was overwhelming and really was stopping me from living a life. Ken worked with me to find ways to both deal with my grief and to honor my late partner as well. He is very pragmatic and made some amazing statements to me that made everything crystal clear. Ken helped me in small steps to regain control of my life.”
CD, 51, GWM
“A Coach for Everybody, Plus: Ken is a well-trained, caring, and smart coach with a practice serving mostly professional gay men. He has provided solid, goal-centered psychotherapy (he’d call it cognitive or something, I suppose) – and is not afraid to include some business coaching in the mix. I’d recommend Ken to anyone wrestling with persona and the stress of running a business. This guy is good at what he does; he’s not cheap by any means, but what good shrink is? Like a lot of people, I had to shop around. I’m sticking with Ken.”
Guerogrino
“Ken has participated as a panelist at a number of City of West Hollywood events including a community forum addressing issues around Crystal Methamphetamine the annual Gay Men’s Forum. The City has been fortunate to have Ken take part at these events as he brings a great amount of expertise to the table as a therapist and coach. He is a pleasure to work with, is always very professional and is highly respected in the community.”
Corey Roskin, Social Services Specialist, City of West Hollywood
“Ken is a consummate professional who takes great pride in what he does. He is an expert in his field who, through his writings and seminars, has helped people with a wide variety of issues pertaining to life enrichment and achieving self actualization. He stays abreast of the latest industry topics and uses the tools of his trade with master precision.”
Carey A.
“I have worked with Ken for many years and find his work to be the utmost in professionalism and compassion. His work within the Los Angeles community, especially that of the LGBT community, is the hallmark of dedication. While working with Ken on many community panels, including the Los Angeles County HIV Mental Health Task Force, he has always provided a intelligence, empathy, and commitment to colleagues and clients alike. I would highly recommend him as a coach, or in any professional endeavors.”
Jonathan Lynch, MFT
“If you are looking for a smart, intuitive, level-headed and kind coach, then you have struck gold with Ken Howard. In a relaxed way, he gets to the heart of the matter and helps people live extraordinary lives. Whether it is a relationship that is struggling or a work or home difficulty, Ken can help you see through the fog and get to a place where you are happier and healthier. Be glad you found him.”
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