In more than three decades as a psychotherapist and coach specializing in gay men, I’ve worked with many men who are successful by almost any conventional measure. They lead organizations, practice medicine or law, build businesses, manage teams, and earn the financial security their younger selves hoped for. Yet a man can be highly accomplished … Read more
A client of mine, successful, disciplined, the kind of man who built a real career from nothing, recently told me he had started reading about retirement planning and felt a strange kind of panic he could not name. It was not about money. His finances were, by any reasonable measure, fine. It was something else. … Read more
Have you ever opened Instagram and suddenly realized everyone else seems to have been invited? Maybe it’s a quiet Saturday evening. You’re finally relaxing after a long week, scrolling without much purpose. Then you see it: six people you know are having brunch in Palm Springs, a group from your gym is celebrating someone’s birthday … Read more
Gay Men and Self-Abandonment: The Quiet Ways We Leave Ourselves Behind For more than three decades as a psychotherapist working primarily with gay men, I’ve watched many clients arrive in therapy believing their core problem was anxiety, loneliness, dating frustration, relationship conflict, burnout, low self-esteem, or depression. Often, those struggles are real. However, underneath them, … Read more
Why Successful Gay Male Professionals Still Feel Off — And What Actually Changes It Therapy for Gay Men Who Want More Than Insight — They Want Real Change This article comes from my work with gay men around confidence, relationships, sexuality, and emotional well-being. If you want to see what working with me looks like: … Read more
This article comes from my work with gay men around confidence, relationships, sexuality, and emotional well-being. If you want to see what working with me looks like: Individual Therapy (CA) | Coaching (Worldwide) Let’s talk about why insight alone doesn’t change gay men’s lives. And I’m talking about both therapy and coaching, since … Read more
Gay Conversion Therapy Survivors: What Was Done to You—and How It Still Affects You For over 30 years, I have worked almost exclusively with gay men as a psychotherapist and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist. Over that time, I have seen the long arc of how cultural stigma, bad science, and ideological pressure shape the inner … Read more
Why It Feels Harder Than Ever—and What Actually Works This article comes from my work with gay men around confidence, relationships, and sexual self-understanding. If you want to see what working with me looks like: Individual Therapy (CA) | Coaching (Worldwide) Many gay men don’t talk about this directly. Still, they feel it. You may … Read more
After more than three decades as a psychotherapist and coach specializing in gay men’s mental health, I have observed a recurring developmental transition among accomplished men in midlife and later life. Many reach their late fifties or early sixties having built careers, relationships, and financial stability, only to discover that the drive which once propelled … Read more
This article comes from my work with gay men around confidence, relationships, and sexual self-understanding. If you want to see what working with me looks like: Individual Therapy (CA) | Coaching (Worldwide) by Ken Howard, LCSW, CST – Founder, GayTherapyLA.com/GayCoachingLA.com A clinical perspective on relationships, development, and what actually helps For many years, clinicians used … Read more
