Aging Without a Blueprint: Gay Men, Retirement, and What Comes Next

Older gay man planning retirement

A client of mine, successful, disciplined, the kind of man who built a real career from nothing, recently told me he had started reading about retirement planning and felt a strange kind of panic he could not name. It was not about money. His finances were, by any reasonable measure, fine. It was something else. … Read more

Why Am I Never Invited? The Psychology of Social Exclusion in Gay Men

Gay man walking a few steps behind friends, representing social exclusion and uncertainty about belonging.

Have you ever opened Instagram and suddenly realized everyone else seems to have been invited? Maybe it’s a quiet Saturday evening. You’re finally relaxing after a long week, scrolling without much purpose. Then you see it: six people you know are having brunch in Palm Springs, a group from your gym is celebrating someone’s birthday … Read more

Gilligan’s Island and the Seven Deadly Sins: What a 60s Sitcom Can Teach Gay Men About Shame, Identity, and Survival

desert island

Gilligan’s Island and the Seven Deadly Sins: What a 60s Sitcom Can Teach Gay Men About Shame, Identity, and Survival By Ken Howard, LCSW, CST GayTherapyLA.com | GayCoachingLA.com Ken@GayTherapyLA.com | 310-339-5778 Some blog articles come from my work with clients. Others come from patterns I observe in gay male culture, or even questions asked during … Read more