Ken 
Gay Men and Self-Abandonment: The Quiet Ways We Leave Ourselves Behind For more than three decades as a psychotherapist working primarily with gay men, I’ve watched many clients arrive in therapy believing their core problem was anxiety, loneliness, dating frustration, relationship conflict, burnout, low self-esteem, or depression. Often, those struggles are real. However, underneath them, … Read more
Why Emotional Certainty Often Beats Intellectual Complexity This article comes from my work as a psychotherapist and coach specializing in gay men for more than three decades. Although my clinical practice focuses on the psychology of gay men, the emotional processes discussed here apply far beyond any single community. I have watched political movements, cultural … Read more
What Actually Helps—Beyond Pills, Injections, and Panic Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, is a gay men’s specialist psychotherapist and AASECT-Certified Sex Therapist with over 30 years of experience working with gay men, couples, and polycules. He provides psychotherapy to California residents and coaching to gay men worldwide, focusing on mental health, sexual confidence, performance anxiety, aging, … Read more
Why Successful Gay Male Professionals Still Feel Off — And What Actually Changes It Therapy for Gay Men Who Want More Than Insight — They Want Real Change This article comes from my work with gay men around confidence, relationships, sexuality, and emotional well-being. If you want to see what working with me looks like: … Read more
This article comes from my work with gay men around confidence, relationships, sexuality, and emotional well-being. If you want to see what working with me looks like: Individual Therapy (CA) | Coaching (Worldwide) Let’s talk about why insight alone doesn’t change gay men’s lives. And I’m talking about both therapy and coaching, since … Read more
Gay Conversion Therapy Survivors: What Was Done to You—and How It Still Affects You For over 30 years, I have worked almost exclusively with gay men as a psychotherapist and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist. Over that time, I have seen the long arc of how cultural stigma, bad science, and ideological pressure shape the inner … Read more
Why It Feels Harder Than Ever—and What Actually Works This article comes from my work with gay men around confidence, relationships, and sexual self-understanding. If you want to see what working with me looks like: Individual Therapy (CA) | Coaching (Worldwide) Many gay men don’t talk about this directly. Still, they feel it. You may … Read more
For over 30 years, I’ve worked almost exclusively with gay men as a psychotherapist and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, as well as a life, career, and executive coach. Over time, I’ve helped clients navigate not only relationships and identity, but also high-stakes professional situations where reputation, authority, and livelihood are on the line. In recent … Read more
As a long-term specialist in gay men’s mental health—now in my 34th year of practice as a psychotherapist and coach—I’ve worked with individuals, couples, and more complex relationship structures across a wide range of life circumstances. Over time, one pattern has emerged more often than expected: the unique challenges faced by gay male couples who … Read more
After more than three decades as a psychotherapist and coach specializing in gay men’s mental health, I have observed a recurring developmental transition among accomplished men in midlife and later life. Many reach their late fifties or early sixties having built careers, relationships, and financial stability, only to discover that the drive which once propelled … Read more
