Ken 
Gay Conversion Therapy Survivors: What Was Done to You—and How It Still Affects You For over 30 years, I have worked almost exclusively with gay men as a psychotherapist and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist. Over that time, I have seen the long arc of how cultural stigma, bad science, and ideological pressure shape the inner … Read more
Why It Feels Harder Than Ever—and What Actually Works This article comes from my work with gay men around confidence, relationships, and sexual self-understanding. If you want to see what working with me looks like: Individual Therapy (CA) | Coaching (Worldwide) Many gay men don’t talk about this directly. Still, they feel it. You may … Read more
For over 30 years, I’ve worked almost exclusively with gay men as a psychotherapist and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, as well as a life, career, and executive coach. Over time, I’ve helped clients navigate not only relationships and identity, but also high-stakes professional situations where reputation, authority, and livelihood are on the line. In recent … Read more
As a long-term specialist in gay men’s mental health—now in my 34th year of practice as a psychotherapist and coach—I’ve worked with individuals, couples, and more complex relationship structures across a wide range of life circumstances. Over time, one pattern has emerged more often than expected: the unique challenges faced by gay male couples who … Read more
After more than three decades as a psychotherapist and coach specializing in gay men’s mental health, I have observed a recurring developmental transition among accomplished men in midlife and later life. Many reach their late fifties or early sixties having built careers, relationships, and financial stability, only to discover that the drive which once propelled … Read more
A man in his late forties sits across from me during an intake session. From the outside, his life looks solid. He has a successful career, a comfortable home, long-standing friendships, and the kind of stability that took years to build. Many people would assume he had “figured things out.” Yet the reason he scheduled … Read more
I’ve spent more than 30 years helping gay men navigate breakups, divorces, and relationship endings—not just as a psychotherapist and sex therapist, but as someone who has lived through loss myself. Breakups don’t simply end relationships; they destabilize identity, emotional regulation, daily routines, and future orientation. This article is written for the immediate aftermath—when your … Read more
Living Inside a Prolonged Stress Climate Many of the gay male therapy or coaching clients I speak with lately struggle to name exactly what feels wrong these days, but something does. They are not reacting to a single crisis, nor are they necessarily experiencing acute panic or depression. Instead, there is a more pervasive sense … Read more
What actually helps—beyond pills, injections, and panic Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, is a gay men’s specialist psychotherapist and AASECT-Certified Sex Therapist with over 30 years of experience working with gay men, couples, and polycules. He provides psychotherapy to California residents and coaching to gay men worldwide, focusing on mental health, sexual confidence, performance anxiety, aging, … Read more
This article comes from my work with gay men around confidence, relationships, and sexual self-understanding. If you want to see what working with me looks like: Individual Therapy (CA) | Coaching (Worldwide) by Ken Howard, LCSW, CST – Founder, GayTherapyLA.com/GayCoachingLA.com A clinical perspective on relationships, development, and what actually helps For many years, clinicians used … Read more
