“It’s been months. Why am I still thinking about him every day?” In my work over 30 years as a gay men’s specialist psychotherapist and coach, I’ve heard some version of this question many times. Sometimes it comes from a man whose relationship lasted fifteen or twenty years and whose entire adult life had become … Read more
Every so often, a client asks me a question that sounds straightforward but turns out to be about something else entirely. He does not begin by asking whether he and his partner should have an open relationship, or some form of consensual non-monogamy. Instead, he tells me they have not had sex in more than … Read more
What Actually Helps—Beyond Pills, Injections, and Panic Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, is a gay men’s specialist psychotherapist and AASECT-Certified Sex Therapist with over 30 years of experience working with gay men, couples, and polycules. He provides psychotherapy to California residents and coaching to gay men worldwide, focusing on mental health, sexual confidence, performance anxiety, aging, … Read more
What actually helps—beyond pills, injections, and panic Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, is a gay men’s specialist psychotherapist and AASECT-Certified Sex Therapist with over 30 years of experience working with gay men, couples, and polycules. He provides psychotherapy to California residents and coaching to gay men worldwide, focusing on mental health, sexual confidence, performance anxiety, aging, … Read more
Problem-Solving in Gay Men’s Open Relationships: Special Topics In a number of previous blog articles on gay men’s relationships in general, and gay open relationships in particular, such as How to Have An Open Relationship Without Hurt Feelings, Part One and Part Two, I’ve discussed how research shows that about half of gay male couples … Read more
