“When did my husband become my roommate?” It is a question I sometimes hear from gay men in therapy or coaching who are in long-term relationships. They may still love each other. They have dinner together, binge Netflix together, and know one another’s skin-care routines, family-of-origin stories, medical histories, irritating habits, favorite foods, and exactly … Read more
Every so often, a client asks me a question that sounds straightforward but turns out to be about something else entirely. He does not begin by asking whether he and his partner should have an open relationship, or some form of consensual non-monogamy. Instead, he tells me they have not had sex in more than … Read more
What actually helps—beyond pills, injections, and panic Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, is a gay men’s specialist psychotherapist and AASECT-Certified Sex Therapist with over 30 years of experience working with gay men, couples, and polycules. He provides psychotherapy to California residents and coaching to gay men worldwide, focusing on mental health, sexual confidence, performance anxiety, aging, … Read more
Gay Sex Therapist on Sexual Mental Health: The Triumvirate of Self, Partner, and Others Sex Therapy: A Background As a long-term (29 years in 2021) gay men’s specialist therapist and gay sex therapist, relatively recently becoming an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (the national credential), I have worked with hundreds or thousands of gay men to … Read more
