As a gay men’s specialist psychotherapist for over 30 years, life/career/relationship/executive coach, and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, I hear about a lot of situations gay men face in the course of a week of client sessions in my full-time psychotherapy and coaching practice with gay men mostly in California but also all over the U.S. … Read more
Gay Men and the Function/Purpose of Casual Hookups Casual Sex Overview If you pay attention to how gay men have been talked about, in the past and today, there are many “criticisms” that we get; some are kind of true (being capable of being superficial), or, revoltingly, from the current crop of vile Republicans (Marjorie … Read more
Gay Men Who Have Given Up on Finding a Relationship In my thirty years (2022) of being a gay men’s specialist psychotherapist and life/career/relationship coach, perhaps the most common topic new clients present to me in asking for help is about relationships (and, relatedly, sex). There are other topics, too, about raising your quality of … Read more
Gay Men’s Dating Situations That Are “No-Go” – And Their Alternatives – PART TWO In Part One of this article, I discussed topics that are a “no-go” in gay men’s dating situations, such as racism/bigotry, money neurosis, unresolved trauma, and several more. As a long-term (30 years in 2022) gay men’s specialist psychotherapist for individuals, … Read more
Gay Men, Pride Season, and Summer Lovin’ Summer lovin’ Had me a blast, Summer lovin’ Happened so fast, I met a [girl] crazy for me Met a boy, cute as can be! Source: Musixmatch Songwriters: Jim Jacobs / Warren Casey Summer Nights lyrics © Edwin H. Morris & Co. … Read more
Gay Men and Mismatched Libidos: Navigating Difference Several times recently in my work in sex therapy for gay men, clients have asked me about what to do if they want more, or less, sex than their partner. It’s sometimes referred to as “desire discrepancy” or “mismatched libidos,” and it can happen in gay or straight … Read more
Gay Men’s Sexuality: Focus on the Five Senses for Better Functioning In my experience as a gay men’s specialist therapist these 30 years now in 2022, and more recently as an AASECT nationally Certified Sex Therapist, I’ve had quite a few guys want to work with me frankly and honestly about their quality of life, … Read more
Gay Men and How to Avoid the Pitfalls of Dating In my long (30 years in 2022) practice in psychotherapy as a specialist in gay male individuals and couples, I see trends that pop up every few months or so. These past couple of weeks have been marked by a trend about single gay men … Read more
Gay Male Relationships: What are the Boundaries Between Partners? As a gay men’s specialist psychotherapist and coach for 30 years now (in 2022), and more recently a nationally Certified Sex Therapist, I like to write about topics that I’m observing across recent multiple sessions with my clients from my full-time private practice. A topic emerged … Read more
“Gay Male Relationships and the ADD/OCD Syndrome” In my psychotherapy and coaching practice specializing in gay men and gay male couples for what is now (in 2022) thirty years (whew!), I keep noticing a pattern in the gay male couples I serve that one partner seems to generally have a pattern of thinking and behavior … Read more
Ken Howard, LCSW, CST is a life/career/executive/relationship coach who has specialized in gay men (individuals and gay male couples) and LGBT+ for over 30 years.
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