Success Can Build an Extraordinary Life. It Doesn’t Always Heal an Earlier One. If you judged only from outward appearances, you might reasonably conclude that many successful gay men have figured life out. They have built impressive careers, achieved financial security, cultivated meaningful friendships, and created lives that many people would envy. They are physicians, … Read more
Have you ever opened Instagram and suddenly realized everyone else seems to have been invited? Maybe it’s a quiet Saturday evening. You’re finally relaxing after a long week, scrolling without much purpose. Then you see it: six people you know are having brunch in Palm Springs, a group from your gym is celebrating someone’s birthday … Read more
Gay Men and Self-Abandonment: The Quiet Ways We Leave Ourselves Behind For more than three decades as a psychotherapist working primarily with gay men, I’ve watched many clients arrive in therapy believing their core problem was anxiety, loneliness, dating frustration, relationship conflict, burnout, low self-esteem, or depression. Often, those struggles are real. However, underneath them, … Read more
