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Gay Men and Kink: Sensory Enhancements to Sex – An Overview of Materials, Circumstances, Fabrics – (PART ONE)

June 28, 2022June 27, 2022 by Ken

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Gay Men and Kink: Sensory Enhancements to Sex – An Overview of Materials, Circumstances, Fabrics – (PART ONE) My Practice Since becoming an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist in 2021, even after many years (30 in 2022!) as a gay men’s specialist licensed psychotherapist (in California) and life/career/relationship coach (worldwide) as the founder of GayTherapyLA.com, I’ve … Read more

Gay Men’s Sexuality: Focus on the Five Senses for Better Functioning

April 11, 2022April 11, 2022 by Ken

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Gay Men’s Sexuality: Focus on the Five Senses for Better Functioning In my experience as a gay men’s specialist therapist these 30 years now in 2022, and more recently as an AASECT nationally Certified Sex Therapist, I’ve had quite a few guys want to work with me frankly and honestly about their quality of life, … Read more

Mental Health Aspects of Sexual Health for Gay Men

March 12, 2022 by Ken

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Mental Health Aspects of Sexual Health for Gay Men As a gay men’s specialist psychotherapist and coach for now 30 years (in 2022), and as a Certified Psychiatric Social Worker, and now AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, perhaps it follows that I might be interested in sharing some thoughts about the intersection of psychiatric disorders, physical … Read more

Gay Sex Therapist on Sexual Mental Health: The Triumvirate of Self, Partner, and Others

February 8, 2021February 8, 2021 by Ken

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Gay Sex Therapist on Sexual Mental Health: The Triumvirate of Self, Partner, and Others Sex Therapy: A Background As a long-term (29 years in 2021) gay men’s specialist therapist and gay sex therapist, relatively recently becoming an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (the national credential), I have worked with hundreds or thousands of gay men to … Read more

Gay Men and Sex During COVID-19

October 29, 2020October 27, 2020 by Ken

As I continue to see clients online during this “COVID Era” as I call it, I notice patterns of how “my guys” are coping. Of course, dealing with the whole COVID-19 pandemic and its many stressors about the economy, work, housing during quarantine, relationships, and dating manifest in different ways, depending on where you live (where … Read more

Topics in Sex Therapy for Gay Men: Overcoming Fear of Topping

July 9, 2019June 25, 2019 by Ken

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[WARNING: CONTAINS SEX THERAPY CONTENT NOT SUITABLE FOR UNDER 18] In part one of this two-part article on gay men’s fears in sex, I discussed the fear of bottoming. In this part, we look at gay men who have a fear of topping instead. I’ve been a specialist in therapy and coaching for gay men … Read more

Three’s Company: The Right Way and the Wrong Way to Have a Gay Men’s Three-Way

May 18, 2020December 10, 2014 by Ken

A therapist’s office (similar to a physician’s or lawyer’s office) is a place to talk about things that would be difficult to talk about almost anywhere else except behind closed doors at home. This is why psychotherapy has a long tradition of strict confidentiality: what’s said in therapy, stays in therapy, with the exception of … Read more