How Do You Know When Your Gay Relationship Is Over?
Gay men’s therapy expert Ken Howard, LCSW, founder of GayTherapyLA.com, discusses the signs that could mean your gay relationship is over.
Blog: Musings on Current Events
Gay Pride 2012: From a Gay Men’s Therapist Perspective
Happy Pride! Frankly, this year, it couldn’t come soon enough. In my private practice specializing in gay men’s therapy and life/career coaching for 20 years, I’ve noticed that what happens in the political and social world very often affects the individual mental health and emotional state of my clients. When the Republican primary candidates relentlessly … Read more
Shrink at the Movies: “The Avengers” (2012)
“The Avengers” (2012) — Well, saw this last night, and I certainly join the ranks of the fans who have made this already one of the most successful movies of all time. It’s a fun, fast-moving superhero movie, made more endearing by assembling the heroes of recent previous Marvel hero movies such as “Thor”, “The … Read more
Gay Men in Search of a Partner: Avoiding the Pitfalls of ‘Cash, Connections, and C—k’
In my private practice in counseling and coaching gay men in West Hollywood, my clients who are single often mention a desire to find a permanent partner. This is only natural; most people (male/female/gay/straight) have an urge to find a partner/spouse to share life with, but this is by no means everyone – it’s also … Read more
Gay Therapist Gives Tips for Coping with Jealousy in Gay Men’s Relationships
Recently someone emailed me a question, and I decided to write more about the topic of jealousy in gay men’s relationships, and how to deal with insecurity, in yourself, or in a partner. See below: Q: What do you suggest to people when they constantly compare themselves to others or don’t feel “good enough”, which … Read more
Shrink at the Movies: “Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close” (2011)
“Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close” (2011) I went into “Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close” (2011), directed by Stephen Daldry, fully intending to hate it for being cloying and pretentious – just based on the title and concept, not based on reading any reviews (although after reading some reviews, others have asserted after seeing it that … Read more
Shrink at the Movies: “The King’s Speech” (2010)
“The King’s Speech” (2010) Criticize, if you must, the cultural and technological juggernaut that is all things Facebook. But I, for one, am very grateful that this phenomenon exists. For many reasons, but one of my favorites is the opportunity to connect with people from My Past that I had lost touch with. One such … Read more
Shrink at the Movies: “The Artist” (2011)
“The Artist” (SPOILER ALERT: CONTAINS PLOT POINTS) Seeing “The Artist” this past weekend was a delight. I primarily identify as a psychotherapist, which is how I make my living in a full-time private practice in West Hollywood (part of Los Angeles County and home to many in the entertainment business), but my avocational identity as … Read more
Shrink at the Movies: “Tootsie” (1982)
“Tootsie” (1982) [SPOILER ALERT: CONTAINS PLOT POINTS] While it’s not technically the 30th anniversary quite yet of one of the most successful film comedies of all time (that comes December 17, 2012), I love this film so much that I’m going to celebrate its milestone anniversary early. And why not? Its stars are still relevant … Read more
Gay Men’s Relationships: How to Make It Work on Four Levels
In my psychotherapy practice recently, I have worked with a number of clients on issues of how to strengthen their relationships with a partner. In my experience and observation over 20 years of doing couples therapy, and individual therapy with clients who are working on relationship issues, I think managing a relationship comes down to … Read more
