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Gay Men and Non-Monetary Wealth: Redefining What It Means to Feel Rich

December 11, 2025 by Ken

When we hear the word wealth, most people jump to external metrics: money, net worth, assets, square footage, or investment accounts. For gay men — who often grow up trying to “prove ourselves” to families, schools, workplaces, and society — the cultural pressure to demonstrate success through financial status can feel especially strong. Over 32 … Read more

Gay Men’s Relationship Advice: How to Succeed in an Age-Difference Relationship

October 13, 2020October 12, 2020 by Ken

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As a very long-term (28 years) specialist in therapy for gay men, I’m asked often for gay men’s relationship advice, especially how to overcome some of the most common and classic challenges in gay relationships. Among these are questions about gay relationship situational difficulties that have to do with where and how we live, such as … Read more

A Gay Therapist Discusses Gay Men and Tattoos: Ritual and Meaning

February 13, 2023December 28, 2015 by Ken

In my private practice as a psychotherapist who specializes in working with gay men, it was a surprise to me when several years into my practice I noticed a pattern that gay men like to talk about how the tattoos they have hold special, even profound meaning for them. When I first opened my private … Read more

Therapy for the Therapist: Therapy, Coaching, or Consultation

August 25, 2015August 25, 2015 by Ken

Who do you work with? If you’re like most therapists, you “give” a lot in the course of your day or week. We are healers; we are givers; we are providers of help, to so many different clients with so many different kinds of disorders, situations, or challenges. You help with psychiatric challenges, relationship issues, … Read more

Life Lessons I Have Learned from Gay Icon Divas (Judy, Liza, Elizabeth, Marilyn, Dolly, Cher, Tina, Diana, Stevie)

April 3, 2015 by Ken

One of the fun things about gay male culture is that “we all” seem to have this fascination with certain women in entertainment. That’s a stereotype, of course, but it has some reasonable roots in reality. I fall into a lot of those “classic gay” things; I like musicals, clothes, the gym, shopping, etc. And … Read more

Valentine’s Day for Single Gay Men: Coping with Hope

February 14, 2023February 14, 2011 by Ken

Valentine’s Day, for all its lovely sentiment, is perhaps one of the most divisive holidays of the year. Everyone can enjoy New Year’s; every American can enjoy President’s Day (thankfully coming up very soon) and Independence Day; we each have a birthday. But Valentine’s Day is a “holiday for lovers”, and many single people can end … Read more

CoachTeam Group Coaching Services

November 3, 2009 by Ken

CoachTeam is a new, patent-pending Group Life Coaching program offered in small groups in my office. It’s different from traditional group psychotherapy (though it uses some of these concepts, as I am a licensed psychotherapist) in that there is a focus on short-term and long-term ATTAINABLE goals. Based on the concepts of mutual support, mutual challenge, team-building, … Read more

Election Blues from Panicking Pollster

April 18, 2008 by Ken

Dear Shrink,

I’m a 22-year-old gay male and I’m a little too deep into election news. I can’t get enough of the news, information online, and newspaper and magazine articles. I follow the polls like a stalker, hoping that my favored candidate is ahead. If we get another anti-gay President, I’m going to scream. How do I deal with my election obsession?

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