Gay Men and the Lessons from ‘Wicked’

Gay Men and the Lessons from ‘Wicked’ With the current (December, 2024) popularity of the new movie version of the hit Broadway musical, “Wicked,” (by long-understood bisexual composer, Stephen Schwartz), and based on the original novel by (gay author) Gregory McGuire, there are many parallels of that modern-classic story that can apply to gay men. … Read more

Gay Men and Trump 2.0: Coping with Anxiety

Gay Men and Trump 2.0: Coping with Anxiety In December, 2004, at the time of the re-election of President George W. Bush (the son of President George Bush, President from 1988-1992), I wrote an article for A&U, “America’s AIDS Magazine,” that was part of my monthly column for that publication for several years, advocating for … Read more

Gay Men, Activism, and Social Conscience

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Gay Men, Activism, and Social Conscience While being a gay men’s specialist psychotherapist, sex therapist, and life/career/executive coach for over 30 years in 2023, I’ve also strongly identified within my graduate training and licensure/professional discipline category of being a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) in the state of California. California has several licenses that allow … Read more

Gay Men and Coping with ‘Bad Luck’

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Gay Men and Coping with ‘Bad Luck’ This year, 2022, marks my thirtieth year as a gay men’s specialist psychotherapist.  I’m also an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, and life/career/relationship coach, for gay men in Los Angeles/West Hollywood, California, all over the United States, and the world.  And one of the things I’ve noticed in working … Read more

The Needs of Gay Men in the Volatile “LGBT” Era

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The Needs of Gay Men in the Volatile “LGBT” Era A couple of years ago, I wrote about some concerns I had overall about the gradual adoption of “LGBT” (or its variants like LGBTQ, LGBTQ+, etc.) as the umbrella term for referring to all sexual and gender minority persons in society (that article is here … Read more

Gay Men and the Need for Safe Spaces of Our Own

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With the continued pressures from the COVID-19 global pandemic, it has come to my attention that in the gay “Mecca” where I live, West Hollywood, California, that some popular and even iconic/historical gay bars are closing for good (to date, these include Gym Bar, Flaming Saddles, Rage (my first gay bar in LA in 1985!) … Read more

Why White Gay Men Should Be Supporting Black Lives Matter

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Why White Gay Men Should Be Supporting Black Lives Matter Occasionally, I like to write about current events.  While most of my blog articles are designed to be “evergreen content” on helping LGBT people in general, and gay men in particular, about the issues I help them with daily in my long (28 years) career … Read more

Gay Men and Coronavirus/COVID-19:  A Special Kind of Coping

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[DISCLAIMER:  THIS WAS WRITTEN ON MARCH 10, 2020, AND THE PANDEMIC HAS WORSENED SINCE.  THIS IS SUBJECT TO THE PERSPECTIVE OF THE VERY EARLIEST SIGNS OF TROUBLE IN THE UNITED STATES…] Gay Men and Coronavirus/COVID-19:  A Special Kind of Coping I wanted to provide my regular readers of the GayTherapyLA blog some thoughts as the … Read more

Guest Blog:  Gay Therapist Brandon Malde-Zoradi on Gay Men Working Through the Pain of Religious Abuse

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Guest Blog by Brandon Malde-Zoradi, MA, AMFT, APCC, Staff Clinician at GayTherapyLA:  “Gay Therapist on Working Through the Pain of Religious Abuse” Religion can be uncomfortable to discuss at times; it should be no surprise why this topic often makes the lists of things that should not be brought up at dinner or a party. … Read more

Gay Therapist and Educator Discusses: The Problem with “LGBT” Language

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LGBT as Terminology If you’ve been around mental health and social services as long as I have (over 27 years), you’ve seen some changes. Even if it’s less time than that, you’ve still seen changes, especially in language and what we call things in the vernacular. Take “gay rights”.  Just saying that term makes people … Read more