Gay Men Who Have Given Up on Finding a Relationship

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Gay Men Who Have Given Up on Finding a Relationship In my thirty years (2022) of being a gay men’s specialist psychotherapist and life/career/relationship coach, perhaps the most common topic new clients present to me in asking for help is about relationships (and, relatedly, sex).  There are other topics, too, about raising your quality of … Read more

Gay Men and How to Avoid the Pitfalls of Dating

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Gay Men and How to Avoid the Pitfalls of Dating In my long (30 years in 2022) practice in psychotherapy as a specialist in gay male individuals and couples, I see trends that pop up every few months or so.  These past couple of weeks have been marked by a trend about single gay men … Read more

Gay Men and Ghosting: Why We Do It, How We Cope

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Gay Men and Ghosting:  Why We Do It, How We Cope In the blogosphere, there have already been some articles on gay men and ghosting, but none of them go into any real depth from a mental health point of view, and in my 26 years as a psychotherapist who specializes in therapy for gay … Read more

How to Have a ‘Magnetic’ Relationship: You’re Neg, He’s Poz – Now What? (Part 2 of 2)

In part I of this article, I described some of the very practical HIV transmission risk management issues involved in sex between HIV negative and positive guys. Other issues that often confront “magnetic” or “serodiscordant” couples include not fully understanding the burden that HIV is to your partner, and being only partially able to sympathize and “relate” with his various fears, frustrations, and symptoms.

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