When You Know You’re Ugly: A Gay Man’s Guide to Coping with Physical Unattractiveness Facing the Reality of Physical Attractiveness As gay men, we are seemingly inundated with ideas, images, and pressures about appearance. The photos that are used in gay apps like Grindr, Scruff, Tindr, and others. The images on the covers … Read more
The Progress Paradox: Did ‘Toxic Woke’ Culture Lose the Election for LGBT+ Americans? As a gay men’s specialist therapist for 32 years, a nationally certified sex therapist, and a lifelong LGBTQ+ activist, I have witnessed seismic changes in our rights and acceptance. From the Stonewall riots in 1969 to marriage equality, and now to parenting … Read more
Gay Executive Coaching and The Dark Side of Ambition: Navigating Toxic Competition in the Workplace I primarily serve as a licensed psychotherapist in California who has specialized in working with gay men as individuals or in relationships for over 32 years now in 2025. I’m also a nationally Certified AASECT Sex Therapist, and retired graduate … Read more
Gay Men and the Lessons from ‘Wicked’ With the current (December, 2024) popularity of the new movie version of the hit Broadway musical, “Wicked,” (by long-understood bisexual composer, Stephen Schwartz), and based on the original novel by (gay author) Gregory McGuire, there are many parallels of that modern-classic story that can apply to gay men. … Read more
Gay Men and Trump 2.0: Coping with Anxiety In December, 2004, at the time of the re-election of President George W. Bush (the son of President George Bush, President from 1988-1992), I wrote an article for A&U, “America’s AIDS Magazine,” that was part of my monthly column for that publication for several years, advocating for … Read more
Caring for Aging Parents: Tips for Adult Gay Men Over my long career (32 years) as a gay men’s specialist therapist, I’ve observed my own aging process, and certainly that of my grandparents, parents, and other relatives and friends. More recently, my sister and I have had adult caregiver roles remotely for our mother who … Read more
Netflix’s “Monsters: The Lyle and Erik Menendez Story” – Insights from a Gay Therapist and Coach on Healing for Gay Male Survivors of Sexual Trauma As a gay men’s specialist psychotherapist, and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, I have spent 32 years working with male survivors of sexual trauma, including those who have faced incest … Read more
Gay Men Open Relationship and Consensual Non-Monogamy Ground Rules: Who What When Where Why? Consensual non-monogamy (CNM) is often more common in gay male relationships than discussed, yet it still carries complexities and challenges. As a psychotherapist with 32 years of experience specializing in working with gay men (as individuals, couples, or polycules), I’ve observed … Read more
Gay Men’s Relationships: When You Want Kids and He Doesn’t I’m the founder of GayTherapyLA.com, which I’ve had for 26 years in private practice, but 32 years overall as a gay men’s specialist psychotherapist, and also an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and Life/Career/Executive/Relationship Coach at GayCoachingLA.com, and, more recently, author of some online courses for … Read more
Over my long (32 years in 2024) career in being a gay men’s specialist therapist, one of the most frequent reasons guys reach out to me to schedule a session is because they are dealing with the emotionally awful aftermath of the breakup of a relationship. This kind of loss is especially painful; there are … Read more
Ken Howard, LCSW, CST is a life/career/executive/relationship coach who has specialized in gay men (individuals and gay male couples) and LGBT+ for over 30 years.
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