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Flash vs. Substance: Pop Psychology Gurus vs. Real Clinicians

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Flash vs. Substance: Pop Psychology Gurus vs. Real Clinicians By Ken Howard, LCSW, CST GayTherapyLA.com | GayCoachingLA.com Ken@GayTherapyLA.com | 310-339-5778 ________________________________________ Why Flashy Doesn’t Mean Fact-Based In today’s media-driven culture, the louder someone talks about psychology, the more we’re expected to believe they know what they’re talking about. Scroll through social media, watch a TED … Read more

Positive Masculinity: Redefining Strength for Gay Men

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Positive Masculinity: Redefining Strength for Gay Men By Ken Howard, LCSW, CST Founder, GayTherapyLA.com It feels like everyone’s talking about masculinity right now—what it is, what it isn’t, and who gets to define it. For gay men, this isn’t just a cultural conversation. It’s personal. Too often, we’ve been told we’re not “real men.” But … Read more

White Lotus and Gay Men’s Fantasies: The Taboo That Teases in Pop Culture

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White Lotus and Gay Men’s Fantasies: The Taboo That Teases in Pop Culture By Ken Howard, LCSW, CST   The recent Season 3 of Max streaming service’s “The White Lotus,” set at a resort in Thailand, has stirred buzz not just for its opulent visuals, biting satire, and ensemble cast, including Parker Posey’s lorazepam-taking “Victora … Read more

The Healthcare Hustle: What Gay Men Need to Know

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The Healthcare Hustle: What Gay Men Need to Know Dealing with the healthcare system is rarely a walk in the park. But for gay men, the process comes with its own set of hurdles—clinical, financial, cultural, and emotional. Some of these barriers are subtle, some are glaring, and most are frustratingly persistent. As a longtime … Read more

Gay Relationships and Legal Planning: Emotional Aspects of Wills, Trusts, Power of Attorney

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Gay Relationships and Legal Planning: Emotional Aspects of Wills, Trusts, Power of Attorney   Having been a specialist therapist for gay men for over 32 years in 2025, I’ve seen individuals and couples (and adult gay men in polyamory) in all kinds of life situations. Primarily, I’m a psychotherapist helping gay men with the usual … Read more

When You Know You’re Ugly: A Gay Man’s Guide to Coping with Physical Unattractiveness

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When You Know You’re Ugly: A Gay Man’s Guide to Coping with Physical Unattractiveness     Facing the Reality of Physical Attractiveness As gay men, we are seemingly inundated with ideas, images, and pressures about appearance.  The photos that are used in gay apps like Grindr, Scruff, Tindr, and others.  The images on the covers … Read more

The Progress Paradox: Did ‘Toxic Woke’ Culture Lose the Election for LGBT+ Americans?

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The Progress Paradox: Did ‘Toxic Woke’ Culture Lose the Election for LGBT+ Americans? As a gay men’s specialist therapist for 32 years, a nationally certified sex therapist, and a lifelong LGBTQ+ activist, I have witnessed seismic changes in our rights and acceptance. From the Stonewall riots in 1969 to marriage equality, and now to parenting … Read more

Gay Executive Coaching and The Dark Side of Ambition: Navigating Toxic Competition in the Workplace

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Gay Executive Coaching and The Dark Side of Ambition: Navigating Toxic Competition in the Workplace I primarily serve as a licensed psychotherapist in California who has specialized in working with gay men as individuals or in relationships for over 32 years now in 2025.  I’m also a nationally Certified AASECT Sex Therapist, and retired graduate … Read more

Gay Men and the Lessons from ‘Wicked’

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Gay Men and the Lessons from ‘Wicked’ With the current (December, 2024) popularity of the new movie version of the hit Broadway musical, “Wicked,” (by long-understood bisexual composer, Stephen Schwartz), and based on the original novel by (gay author) Gregory McGuire, there are many parallels of that modern-classic story that can apply to gay men. … Read more

Gay Men and Trump 2.0: Coping with Anxiety

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Gay Men and Trump 2.0: Coping with Anxiety In December, 2004, at the time of the re-election of President George W. Bush (the son of President George Bush, President from 1988-1992), I wrote an article for A&U, “America’s AIDS Magazine,” that was part of my monthly column for that publication for several years, advocating for … Read more

Ken Howard, LCSW, CST is a  life/career/executive/relationship coach who has specialized in gay men (individuals and gay male couples) and LGBT+ for over 30 years.

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