Caring for Aging Parents:  Tips for Adult Gay Men

Caring for Aging Parents:  Tips for Adult Gay Men Over my long career (32 years) as a gay men’s specialist therapist, I’ve observed my own aging process, and certainly that of my grandparents, parents, and other relatives and friends.  More recently, my sister and I have had adult caregiver roles remotely for our mother who … Read more

Gay Men and How to Reach Your Full Potential

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Gay Men and How to Reach Your Full Potential From my perspective as a long term (31 years in 2023) gay men’s specialist psychotherapist and life/career/relationship coach, I often focus on helping gay men reach your full potential.  Another way of saying this, which has been a long-term theme of my practice, is to help … Read more

Gay Men and Coping with Specific Traumas – PART ONE

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Gay Men and Coping with Specific Traumas – PART ONE Throughout my career as a gay men’s specialist psychotherapist (for 30 years in 2022), I’ve helped a lot of gay men who have been the victims – and survivors – of various kinds of trauma.  I use the terms both “victim” and “survivor” to validate … Read more

Gay Men and Pets: Challenges & Rewards

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Gay Men and Pets: Challenges & Rewards In an earlier article, I wrote about gay men seeking to satisfy their natural paternal instincts, even if they do not have children (that article is here).  I wrote how gay men sometimes see their pets as their “children,” doting on them probably more than straight people do, … Read more

Gay Men and Trauma Recovery: Reclaiming Your Life

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Gay Men and Trauma Recovery: Reclaiming Your Life   What is Trauma? After being a gay men’s specialist therapist for 30 years now (in 2022), I am often humbled by the wonderful opportunity I have to be of service to gay men from so many different backgrounds, of ages, races, ethnicities, even nationalities, and in … Read more

Gay Men, Pride Season, and Summer Lovin’

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Gay Men, Pride Season, and Summer Lovin’              Summer lovin’             Had me a blast,             Summer lovin’             Happened so fast,             I met a [girl] crazy for me             Met a boy, cute as can be! Source: Musixmatch Songwriters: Jim Jacobs / Warren Casey Summer Nights lyrics © Edwin H. Morris & Co. … Read more

Gay Men and Food: A Dynamic Relationship at Any Age

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Gay Men and Food: A Dynamic Relationship at Any Age As of the time of this writing, it’s the holiday season of 2021.  And what marks the holiday season more than seasonal foods?  Everyone, gay men included, tend to go off their diets and indulge in holiday treats like cookies, candies, baked goods, and winter … Read more

Gay Men and When It’s Time to Break Up a Relationship

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Gay Men and When It’s Time to Break Up a Relationship They say, “Love is grand.”  And it is, really.  In my 29 years (in 2021) as a gay men’s specialist psychotherapist, couples therapist, sex therapist, and life/career/executive coach, I’ve worked with hundreds of gay male couples to help them improve their relationships to try … Read more

Coping with Sudden Crisis:  A Personal Story

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Coping with Sudden Crisis:  A Personal Story Followers of my blog articles and podcast episodes are familiar with my work as a long-term (29 years in 2021) gay men’s specialist psychotherapist, Certified Sex Therapist, and life/career coach.  I address many topics about the mental health and well-being of gay men, but I haven’t said that … Read more

Gay Men Who Live Together Too Early

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Gay Men Who Live Together Too Early Over my long career (29 years in 2021) of providing couples therapy for gay men in California, as well as relationship coaching to guys all over the United States and other countries of the world, I’ve observed the same topics or challenges (“presenting issues” we therapists say) keep … Read more