A Career Coach’s 9 Tips for How to Make More Money

One of the biggest questions that guys have about their careers is how to make more money.  Women wonder this, too, but my psychotherapy and coaching practice focuses on men (gay and straight) and I know more about those dynamics.  Even though there is certainly a social injustice about men, in general, getting paid more … Read more

How to Improve a Gay Male Relationship: The Boyfriend “Owner’s Manual”

You’ve bought appliances, electronics, all kinds of gadgets, right? So, how do you know how they work? Maybe you’ve seen someone else use the same thing, but often when we buy something, and it’s even a little complicated (electronic, mechanical, etc.), we consult the Owner’s Manual that comes in the box to learn how to … Read more

Five Work Transitions for Gay Men that Could Benefit from Career Coaching

While I do mainstream psychotherapy sessions in my office for people with depression, anxiety, trauma, relationship conflicts, and many psychological disorders, I’ve also had many requests for career coaching in the past year especially.  Many guys have friends, bosses, family, and maybe even a mentor of sorts, but career coaching fulfills something none of these … Read more

Therapy and Coaching for Gay Male Actors, Writers, Designers, and Other Creative Professionals: Celebrating Success, Managing Challenges

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As a psychotherapist and career coach in Los Angeles for over 28 years who specializes in gay men, the founder of GayTherapyLA.com, it’s inevitable that I would work with quite a few creative professionals:  actors, television writers, models, singers, designers, and others in the course of a year.  This year has been especially active with … Read more

Gay Men’s Mental Health: 5 Tips for an Optimal Spring/Summer

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Gay Men’s Mental Health:  5 Tips for an Optimal Spring/Summer Spring has sprung!  Spring is a nice time of year for many people, because things like the doldrums of winter can be shaken off and the spring/summer seasons can usually bring a lot of nice things like sunshine, outdoor socializing, extra daylight to work/play in, … Read more

Gay Male Sexual Abuse, Incest, and Rape Survivors: Characteristics and Coping

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It’s a safe bet that every psychotherapist eventually will work with adults, male or female, who are survivors (I prefer this term over the word, “victims”) of childhood sexual abuse, incest, or sexual assault.  For the past 26 years, I have been a psychotherapist who specializes in working with gay men, and when I work … Read more

Gay Men and ‘Golden Girls’ Addiction: A Mental Health Plague on Our Community and the Severest of Severe Afflictions

(EB, this is for you:) On this April 1, we celebrate Spring and celebrate that legal marriage equality is the law of the land, and gay men all over America celebrate, with ceremonies that include Elvis impersonators and chauffeurs to our weddings that turn out to be our exes at the wheel.  All the more … Read more

Gay Therapist Tips for Overcoming Fetish Guilt and Embracing Full-Spectrum Sexuality

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Last night I had the opportunity to attend the annual Mr. LA Leather event, part of LA Leather Pride Week.  One of my colleagues in the gay therapist community, Justin Natoli, MA, MFT Intern, who recently wrote a great piece on non-monogamy in gay male relationships, was one of the contestants. Another therapist colleague was … Read more

How ‘Uptown Funk’ Treadmill Dancer Carson Dean is a Hero for Our Times

This otherwise fairly normal news week in cyberspace was punctuated with a vibrant exclamation point in the form of the viral video  currently circulating the globe from a young Los Angeles gymnast, singer, dancer, model, and choreographer by the name of Carson Dean (or, as he is known most this week, “that guy doing that … Read more