Gay Men’s Career Planning: For Love or Money? Intrinsic vs. Extrinsic Rewards

Gay Men’s Career Planning:  For Love or Money?  Intrinsic vs. Extrinsic Rewards Gay men’s career planning is a frequent subject in my psychotherapy and coaching practice in my office in Los Angeles and all over the world (through webcam).  One of the biggest themes in discussion lately has been about intrinsic, inherent rewards of the … Read more

How Gay Men Can Face Any Problem: Developing Resilience – Part 1: Traits

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Whether it’s Trump’s election and his appointment of virulently anti-gay cabinet members (my article on that is here), or just everyday life challenges that would be there regardless, gay men need support to face stressors of various kinds.  Things happen that are barriers, setbacks, and losses, and when they do, we need to mobilize both … Read more

Gay Therapist Gives Tips on Gay Men Aging Gracefully: Part III: Domestically and Financially

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In this third and last of my three-part series on how therapy can help gay men age gracefully, I’d like to share how therapy can help you be at your best domestically and financially.  (In Part I, we covered emotionally and physically, link here; and in Part II , we covered socially and culturally, link … Read more

Gay Therapist Gives Tips for Gay Men Aging Gracefully: Part II: Socially and Culturally

In part I of this three-part series, (How Therapy Can Help You Age Gracefully: A Guide for Gay Men (Part I: Emotionally and Physically), we looked how therapy can help gay men age gracefully from the emotional and physical points of view.  Today, I’d like to share two new aspects of how therapy can support … Read more

Gay Therapist Gives Tips for Gay Men Aging Gracefully: Part I: Emotionally and Physically

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Part I:  Emotionally and Physically In this three-part series of blog articles, I’d like to share some of the ways that I’ve seen my gay male clients benefit from therapy in a way that most people probably don’t think about:  how therapy helps with a healthy aging.  As a specialist in LGBT affirmative therapy, and … Read more

The 8 Ways Diversity is Good for Your Mental Health

The Gay Men’s Chorus of Los Angeles (of which I was a member for a number of years in the 90’s) sings a song in its permanent repertoire called “Diversity”, singing about how the gay men in the Chorus come from many different states and many different occupations, and our “diversity makes us strong”.  I … Read more

Coping with the Orlando Anti-Gay Massacre: 5 Stages of Grief

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In the wake of the Orlando massacre this past Sunday, my own experience and that of my clients has been an intense mix of emotions.  As a psychotherapist who has specialized in working almost exclusively with gay men for over 24 years as the founder and director of GayTherapyLA, there are few better suited to … Read more

Gay Men as Workplace Supervisors: Survival Tips for When You’re the New Boss

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For over 24 years, my specialty as a therapist and life/business coach has been working with gay men.  For many topics, treating or coaching a gay man is very similar to how a woman (straight or gay) or a straight man would be.  However, “cultural competency” in working with gay men demands that the provider … Read more

Gay Men and Sexting: Relax, It’s Just Texts

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A while back, I wrote an article about gay men and resisting the urge to “snoop” – that is, looking at your boyfriend/partner/spouse’s phone without his permission; more on that here. And in this article here, I offered some advice on how to use social media but avoid overwhelm, jealousy, mistrust, and stress.  Similarly, I’d … Read more

On 25 Years of Living with HIV Today: Here’s How I Feel

I was diagnosed with HIV on Saturday, November 3, 1990. That was 25 years ago today. This was at the old site of the LA Gay & Lesbian Center, when it was on Highland Avenue. My “code name” that I gave one week before for the blood test was “KH90” (my initials and the year), … Read more