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Gay Men and Kink: Sensory Enhancements to Sex – An Overview of Materials, Circumstances, Fabrics – (PART ONE)

June 28, 2022June 27, 2022 by Ken

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Gay Men and Kink: Sensory Enhancements to Sex – An Overview of Materials, Circumstances, Fabrics – (PART ONE) My Practice Since becoming an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist in 2021, even after many years (30 in 2022!) as a gay men’s specialist licensed psychotherapist (in California) and life/career/relationship coach (worldwide) as the founder of GayTherapyLA.com, I’ve … Read more

Gay Men and Mismatched Libidos: Navigating Difference

May 1, 2022 by Ken

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Gay Men and Mismatched Libidos: Navigating Difference Several times recently in my work in sex therapy for gay men, clients have asked me about what to do if they want more, or less, sex than their partner. It’s sometimes referred to as “desire discrepancy” or “mismatched libidos,” and it can happen in gay or straight … Read more

Gay Men and Consensual Non-Monogamy Early in Relationships

September 24, 2021September 24, 2021 by Ken

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Gay Men and Consensual Non-Monogamy Early in Relationships The curriculum that trains AASECT Certified Sex Therapists like myself (which includes hundreds of hours of instruction, four in-person weekend seminars, 50 hours of clinical supervision in not less than 18 months of experience, and continuing education weekend seminar updates each year), frequently addresses the “style” of … Read more

Gay Sex Therapist on Sexual Mental Health: The Triumvirate of Self, Partner, and Others

February 8, 2021February 8, 2021 by Ken

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Gay Sex Therapist on Sexual Mental Health: The Triumvirate of Self, Partner, and Others Sex Therapy: A Background As a long-term (29 years in 2021) gay men’s specialist therapist and gay sex therapist, relatively recently becoming an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (the national credential), I have worked with hundreds or thousands of gay men to … Read more

Gay Sex Therapist on Gay Relationships and the ‘Sexual Thaw’: Restoring Sex After a Long Stalemate

December 29, 2021December 8, 2020 by Ken

In a recent informal Facebook poll I conducted on suggested blog topics, this topic won the most votes, so here goes: (Readers are encouraged to notify me at Ken@GayTherapyLA.com if you have suggestions for future blog/podcast topics.) In my long (28 years in 2020) career as a gay men’s specialist therapist and gay sex therapist, … Read more

Gay Men’s Sexuality: Three Types of Erectile Dysfunction and Their Interventions

April 26, 2020April 18, 2020 by Ken

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Gay Men’s Sexuality: Three Types of Erectile Dysfunction and Their Interventions [Warning: This is an adult clinical discussion of sex therapy topics provided by a licensed clinical social worker and trained sex therapist. It is not restricted adult content, nor is it literary erotica or “pornography,” but reader discretion is advised if you are sensitive … Read more

Topics in Sex Therapy for Gay Men: Overcoming Fear of Bottoming

July 9, 2019June 25, 2019 by Ken

[WARNING: CONTAINS SEX THERAPY CONTENT NOT SUITABLE FOR UNDER 18] I’ve been a specialist in therapy and coaching for gay men for over 27 years, as individuals and couples. I work with guys on lots of issues and disorders, such as depression, bipolar disorder, OCD, ADD, substance abuse recovery, dating skills, career planning, and couples … Read more