Have you ever opened Instagram and suddenly realized everyone else seems to have been invited? Maybe it’s a quiet Saturday evening. You’re finally relaxing after a long week, scrolling without much purpose. Then you see it: six people you know are having brunch in Palm Springs, a group from your gym is celebrating someone’s birthday … Read more
Gay Men and Self-Abandonment: The Quiet Ways We Leave Ourselves Behind For more than three decades as a psychotherapist working primarily with gay men, I’ve watched many clients arrive in therapy believing their core problem was anxiety, loneliness, dating frustration, relationship conflict, burnout, low self-esteem, or depression. Often, those struggles are real. However, underneath them, … Read more
Why Emotional Certainty Often Beats Intellectual Complexity This article comes from my work as a psychotherapist and coach specializing in gay men for more than three decades. Although my clinical practice focuses on the psychology of gay men, the emotional processes discussed here apply far beyond any single community. I have watched political movements, cultural … Read more
