Of Potions, Pills and Powders: Gay Therapist Describes Approaches to Drug Use in Gay Men’s Relationships

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Drug use in gay relationships is a common, if controversial, topic to discuss.  Regular readers know that I’m not one to shy away from controversial topics about gay men’s lives, and today I’d like to discuss this.  In the privacy of therapy, even when I work remotely with guys on webcam sessions, we use the … Read more

Part III: The Gay Man in the Crazy Office: Personality Disorders in the Workplace – Anxious/Fearful People

In Part I of this three-part series (click here for that) and in Part II (click here for that) on gay men and personality disorders in the workplace, we looked at the Odd/Eccentric personality disorder types, the Paranoid, Schizoid, and Schizotypal, with some tips on how to get along with those types if you find … Read more

Part II: The Gay Man in the Crazy Office: Personality Disorders in the Workplace – Dramatic/Emotional People

In Part I of this three-part series (click here for that) on gay men and personality disorders in the workplace, we looked at the Odd/Eccentric personality disorder types, the Paranoid, Schizoid, and Schizotypal, with some tips on how to get along with those types if you find them in your office.  Here in Part II, … Read more

The Gay Man in the Crazy Office: Personality Disorders in the Workplace – Part I: Odd/Eccentric People

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I’m the founder and clinical director of Gay Therapy LA, a private practice in psychotherapy and life/career coaching where myself and two associates (more about them here, on the weekends) specialize (for 24 years now) in working with gay men, in individual LGBT/gay-affirmative therapy or therapy for gay male couples.  Most of my clients are … Read more

Gay Men’s Relationships: Overcoming Cultural Differences

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Cultural differences in gay men’s relationships are themes that come up frequently in my practice of therapy for gay male couples. If you’re in a relationship (particularly a new one) with a guy from a different ethnicity, nationality, or culture from yours, or know someone who is, you might find these tips helpful. In addition … Read more

Single Gay Men in Search of a Relationship: This is Not Your Parents’ Marriage

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In my psychotherapy practice, I often work with single gay men in search of a relationship.  Are you sometimes frustrated that you are still single? I hear this a lot in my psychotherapy and coaching practice, where for over 24 years, I have helped gay men deal with this situation. There is no one “magic … Read more

Gay Men and Sleep: Coping with Nightmares

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Have you been bothered by having nightmares or bad dreams?  Today I wanted to write about gay men and sleep, and coping with nightmares.  This comes up frequently either with clients in my office, or when I do online counseling or coaching for gay men all over the country, or the world.  Yesterday in my … Read more

Gay Men and Sexting: Relax, It’s Just Texts

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A while back, I wrote an article about gay men and resisting the urge to “snoop” – that is, looking at your boyfriend/partner/spouse’s phone without his permission; more on that here. And in this article here, I offered some advice on how to use social media but avoid overwhelm, jealousy, mistrust, and stress.  Similarly, I’d … Read more

Gay Male Relationships: How Can I Prevent My Partner from Cheating? Common Reasons for Cheating and How to Manage Them

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In my psychotherapy practice specializing in gay male individuals and gay male couples over the past 24 years, I have worked with many guys who need help because they are upset after discovering that their boyfriend or partner/spouse was “cheating” on them. I hesitate to even use the word “cheating” because it implies that it’s … Read more

A Gay Therapist Discusses Gay Men and Tattoos: Ritual and Meaning

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In my private practice as a psychotherapist who specializes in working with gay men, it was a surprise to me when several years into my practice I noticed a pattern that gay men like to talk about how the tattoos they have hold special, even profound meaning for them. When I first opened my private … Read more