Gay Men and How to Recover from a Breakup

Over my long (32 years in 2024) career in being a gay men’s specialist therapist, one of the most frequent reasons guys reach out to me to schedule a session is because they are dealing with the emotionally awful aftermath of the breakup of a relationship.  This kind of loss is especially painful; there are … Read more

Gay Men and How to Reach Your Full Potential

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Gay Men and How to Reach Your Full Potential From my perspective as a long term (31 years in 2023) gay men’s specialist psychotherapist and life/career/relationship coach, I often focus on helping gay men reach your full potential.  Another way of saying this, which has been a long-term theme of my practice, is to help … Read more

Gay Men, Activism, and Social Conscience

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Gay Men, Activism, and Social Conscience While being a gay men’s specialist psychotherapist, sex therapist, and life/career/executive coach for over 30 years in 2023, I’ve also strongly identified within my graduate training and licensure/professional discipline category of being a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) in the state of California. California has several licenses that allow … Read more

Gay Men and Coping with Specific Traumas – PART TWO

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Gay Men and Coping with Specific Traumas – PART TWO In Part One of this discussion, I talked about coping with specific traumas that include Medical, Legal, Academic, and Criminal traumas, and how to cope with them. Here in Part Two, I will discuss Workplace, Family of Origin, Political, and Social/Peer traumas, and how to … Read more

Gay Men and Coping with Specific Traumas – PART ONE

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Gay Men and Coping with Specific Traumas – PART ONE Throughout my career as a gay men’s specialist psychotherapist (for 30 years in 2022), I’ve helped a lot of gay men who have been the victims – and survivors – of various kinds of trauma.  I use the terms both “victim” and “survivor” to validate … Read more

Gay Men’s Relationship Advice: How to Succeed in an Age-Difference Relationship

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As a very long-term (28 years) specialist in therapy for gay men, I’m asked often for gay men’s relationship advice, especially how to overcome some of the most common and classic challenges in gay relationships.  Among these are questions about gay relationship situational difficulties that have to do with where and how we live, such as … Read more

Gay Men’s Strengths: Making the Most of Your Culture

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  I have been a psychotherapist specializing in gay men for over 28 years, and I do this as a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in California, as well as providing life/career/relationship coaching to guys outside of California and in other states and other countries around the world, and I’m also a trained sex therapist.  But … Read more

Coping with COVID-19 for Gay Men: What Type Are You?

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Coping with COVID-19 for Gay Men: What Type Are You? Now that many weeks (months) are going by since the initial “lockdown” or “quarantine” conditions due to novel coronavirus/COVID-19, I’m seeing a number of patterns emerge among my clients of my therapy and coaching practice, as a long-term (28 years!) gay men’s specialist.  Whether it’s … Read more

Gay Men’s Sexuality: Three Types of Erectile Dysfunction and Their Interventions

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Gay Men’s Sexuality: Three Types of Erectile Dysfunction and Their Interventions [Warning:  This is an adult clinical discussion of sex therapy topics provided by a licensed clinical social worker and trained sex therapist.  It is not restricted adult content, nor is it literary erotica or “pornography,” but reader discretion is advised if you are sensitive … Read more

Gay Men and Appearance Privilege:  What It Is, What To Do About It

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Gay Men and Appearance Privilege:  What It Is, What To Do About It Imitation and Flattery? Recently, I discovered that a gay men’s specialist therapist in Chicago had posted a string of postings in recent months on Facebook that directly coincided with a string of topics of several of my blog articles and podcast episodes … Read more