Gay Men’s Fitness and Life Success: Don’t Avoid the Painful Stuff

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Gay Men’s Fitness and Gay Men’s Life Success:  Don’t Avoid the Painful Stuff   No Pain, No Gain As a therapist and life coach who specializes in gay men and gay male couples (for over 25 years now), I’ve noticed a theme in recent sessions over the past few weeks that I wanted to share … Read more

A Gay Therapist’s Tips for Dating and Sex in Single Older Gay Men

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Recently on my Facebook page for my psychotherapy and coaching practice for gay men, I asked readers for suggestions for new blog article topics.  I’m here for you (along with my associate clinicians here at GayTherapyLA, offering counseling/coaching in person, via phone, or via webcam all over the world), and so I’m happy to receive … Read more

A Gay Therapist’s Tips for Gay to Men Improve Sexual Functioning: The Mind/Body Connection

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How Gay Men Improve Sexual Functioning:  The Mind/Body Connection   Sexual Satisfaction as Personal Right As I’ve learned over 25 years providing gay-affirmative therapy and coaching for gay men and gay male couples all over the world, a robust mental health is made up of certain core components.  A part of good mental health is … Read more

Gay Men’s Career Planning: For Love or Money? Intrinsic vs. Extrinsic Rewards

Gay Men’s Career Planning:  For Love or Money?  Intrinsic vs. Extrinsic Rewards Gay men’s career planning is a frequent subject in my psychotherapy and coaching practice in my office in Los Angeles and all over the world (through webcam).  One of the biggest themes in discussion lately has been about intrinsic, inherent rewards of the … Read more

How Gay Men Can Face Any Problem: Developing Resilience – Part 2: Techniques

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How Gay Men Can Face Any Problem: Developing Resilience – Part 2: Techniques In Part 1 of this article, I shared some of the traits of resilient people that have been described by Susan Dunn, in her “Top 10 Attributes of Resilient People”, among others.  Resilience is the ability to adapt and grow from adversity, … Read more

How Gay Men Can Face Any Problem: Developing Resilience – Part 1: Traits

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Whether it’s Trump’s election and his appointment of virulently anti-gay cabinet members (my article on that is here), or just everyday life challenges that would be there regardless, gay men need support to face stressors of various kinds.  Things happen that are barriers, setbacks, and losses, and when they do, we need to mobilize both … Read more

A Secular Appreciation of Christmas

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A Secular Appreciation of Christmas Conflicted About Christmas The holiday season is many things for many people, because as a world culture, it’s the time of year when the peoples of many (but not all) nations unite around symbols, customs, and rituals that reflect observance of Christmas, in areas of the world that used to … Read more

Coping with Post-Election Fears in an LGBT Context

Coping with Post-Election Fears in an LGBT Context There are countless blogs being written this week about the election results, and since I write the blog regularly, it seems only fitting that I contribute.  But I wanted to offer something I haven’t seen written yet, which is coping with the election of Trump in a … Read more

Ten Tips to Reduce Your Election Stress This Weekend: A Guide for Gay Men

There’s a saying that says, “don’t be part of the problem, be part of the solution.” So many of my friends on Facebook, my clients, and just people I talk to, have reported that they have had such a hard week and hard time for a number of weeks now, because they are stressed about … Read more

In Defense of Hate: Understanding the Modern American Conservative

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[OK, it should go without saying for those who regularly read my blog, but I’m being facetious with the below.  I’m not a Trump supporter, and I’m being “devil’s advocate” here.  Just to clarify…] Usually, I write about LGBT issues (more specifically, about gay men), but because so many are stressed out about this election, … Read more