Gay Men and Life Lessons We Can Learn from Actors

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Gay Men and Life Lessons We Can Learn from Actors As a gay men’s specialist psychotherapist and coach in Los Angeles, or, more specifically, West Hollywood, the influence of the television and film entertainment industry is everywhere. Not all, but a good percentage of my clients are somehow affiliated with it. It permeates the air … Read more

Gay Men and New Year, New Sex: Mind, Heart, Body

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Gay Men and New Year, New Sex: Mind, Heart, Body   Happy New Year!  As I start my 31st year as a gay men’s specialist psychotherapist, life/career/relationship coach, and AASECT-Certified sex therapist, I challenge myself to think of expansive, new ideas.  The new year, for all of us, is like a blank piece of paper … Read more

Gay Men Who Have Given Up on Finding a Relationship

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Gay Men Who Have Given Up on Finding a Relationship In my thirty years (2022) of being a gay men’s specialist psychotherapist and life/career/relationship coach, perhaps the most common topic new clients present to me in asking for help is about relationships (and, relatedly, sex).  There are other topics, too, about raising your quality of … Read more

Gay Men and Coping with Specific Traumas – PART TWO

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Gay Men and Coping with Specific Traumas – PART TWO In Part One of this discussion, I talked about coping with specific traumas that include Medical, Legal, Academic, and Criminal traumas, and how to cope with them. Here in Part Two, I will discuss Workplace, Family of Origin, Political, and Social/Peer traumas, and how to … Read more

Gay Men and Coping with Specific Traumas – PART ONE

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Gay Men and Coping with Specific Traumas – PART ONE Throughout my career as a gay men’s specialist psychotherapist (for 30 years in 2022), I’ve helped a lot of gay men who have been the victims – and survivors – of various kinds of trauma.  I use the terms both “victim” and “survivor” to validate … Read more

Gay Men and Pets: Challenges & Rewards

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Gay Men and Pets: Challenges & Rewards In an earlier article, I wrote about gay men seeking to satisfy their natural paternal instincts, even if they do not have children (that article is here).  I wrote how gay men sometimes see their pets as their “children,” doting on them probably more than straight people do, … Read more

PART TWO – Gay Men’s Dating Situations That Are “No-Go” – And Their Alternatives

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Gay Men’s Dating Situations That Are “No-Go” – And Their Alternatives – PART TWO In Part One of this article, I discussed topics that are a “no-go” in gay men’s dating situations, such as racism/bigotry, money neurosis, unresolved trauma, and several more. As a long-term (30 years in 2022) gay men’s specialist psychotherapist for individuals, … Read more

Gay Men’s Dating Situations That Are “No-Go” – And Their Alternatives – PART ONE

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Gay Men’s Dating Situations That Are “No-Go” – And Their Alternatives – PART ONE As a long-term (30 years in 2022) gay men’s specialist psychotherapist for individuals, couples, polycules, and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST), I work with guys daily on relationships – finding them, improving them, and, in some cases, coping with ending them. … Read more

Gay Men and the Mental Health Aspects of Monkey Pox

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Gay Men and the Mental Health Aspects of Monkey Pox Currently, as of this writing in early August, 2022, no topic is more timely among gay men, apparently worldwide, than Monkey Pox. And while many (most?) people these days refer to anything about sexual and gender minorities as “LGBT,” I find some very real, practical … Read more

Gay Men and Trauma Recovery: Reclaiming Your Life

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Gay Men and Trauma Recovery: Reclaiming Your Life   What is Trauma? After being a gay men’s specialist therapist for 30 years now (in 2022), I am often humbled by the wonderful opportunity I have to be of service to gay men from so many different backgrounds, of ages, races, ethnicities, even nationalities, and in … Read more