In this third and last of my three-part series on how therapy can help gay men age gracefully, I’d like to share how therapy can help you be at your best domestically and financially. (In Part I, we covered emotionally and physically, link here; and in Part II , we covered socially and culturally, link … Read more
In part I of this three-part series, (How Therapy Can Help You Age Gracefully: A Guide for Gay Men (Part I: Emotionally and Physically), we looked how therapy can help gay men age gracefully from the emotional and physical points of view. Today, I’d like to share two new aspects of how therapy can support … Read more
Part I: Emotionally and Physically In this three-part series of blog articles, I’d like to share some of the ways that I’ve seen my gay male clients benefit from therapy in a way that most people probably don’t think about: how therapy helps with a healthy aging. As a specialist in LGBT affirmative therapy, and … Read more
The Gay Men’s Chorus of Los Angeles (of which I was a member for a number of years in the 90’s) sings a song in its permanent repertoire called “Diversity”, singing about how the gay men in the Chorus come from many different states and many different occupations, and our “diversity makes us strong”. I … Read more
It’s not true that all gay men spend an inordinate amount of time in the gym, but it sure seems like it’s all of them. For most gay men, it’s just routine. There is something about gay male culture world-wide that seems to support the “gym lifestyle”, whether it’s for health reasons or for the … Read more
Quickly try this exercise: Think about where you were 15 years ago, in the Spring of 2001. Where were you working? Where did you go for lunch? Who was your favorite co-worker? Who was your least-favorite co-worker? Now, who was President? (I bet that took a second, right?). Because when we think about the course … Read more
Drug use in gay relationships is a common, if controversial, topic to discuss. Regular readers know that I’m not one to shy away from controversial topics about gay men’s lives, and today I’d like to discuss this. In the privacy of therapy, even when I work remotely with guys on webcam sessions, we use the … Read more
In Part I of this three-part series (click here for that) and in Part II (click here for that) on gay men and personality disorders in the workplace, we looked at the Odd/Eccentric personality disorder types, the Paranoid, Schizoid, and Schizotypal, with some tips on how to get along with those types if you find … Read more
A while back, I wrote an article about gay men and resisting the urge to “snoop” – that is, looking at your boyfriend/partner/spouse’s phone without his permission; more on that here. And in this article here, I offered some advice on how to use social media but avoid overwhelm, jealousy, mistrust, and stress. Similarly, I’d … Read more
I was diagnosed with HIV on Saturday, November 3, 1990. That was 25 years ago today. This was at the old site of the LA Gay & Lesbian Center, when it was on Highland Avenue. My “code name” that I gave one week before for the blood test was “KH90” (my initials and the year), … Read more
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