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Gay Men and Reconciling Your Religious Beliefs with Your Sexuality

May 19, 2022 by Ken

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Gay Men and Reconciling Your Religious Beliefs with Your Sexuality In my experience as a gay men’s specialist therapist (30 years in 2022) in California, and life/career/relationship coach (nationally and worldwide), I’ve written before about gay men reclaiming their spirituality (that article is here: https://gaycoachingla.com/gay-mens-spirituality-reclaiming-rights/). Someone messaged me on Instagram recently and asked me to … Read more

COVID’s End as Trauma Recovery in Gay Men

June 3, 2021June 2, 2021 by Ken

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COVID-19 As a Traumatic Experience At the time of this writing in early June, 2021, my local community of Los Angeles/West Hollywood (California) is gearing up for the broader grand re-opening of California by order of Governor Gavin Newsom on June 15th (according to a Los Angeles Times article of May 21, 2021, here). The new guidelines basically … Read more

Gay Men’s Relationships: How to Deal with Your Ex

February 25, 2021February 24, 2021 by Ken

Maybe this title is misleading, because maybe, as a gay man who has left a relationship, you don’t want to “deal” with your ex at all. And yet lately, in my therapy and coaching practice as a gay men’s specialist and AASECT-Certified sex therapist, I’ve been helping a lot of guys on the topic of coping … Read more

Gay Men’s Goals: How Do You Define Success in the New Year?

January 30, 2021January 27, 2021 by Ken

With a few weeks into the new year, I’ve been talking with a lot of my clients about their goals for 2021. I have often done this with clients at the start of a new year throughout my long career (29 years) as a gay men’s specialist therapist and coach, but this year is so very … Read more

Gay Men’s Strengths: Making the Most of Your Culture

August 15, 2020August 13, 2020 by Ken

I have been a psychotherapist specializing in gay men for over 28 years, and I do this as a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in California, as well as providing life/career/relationship coaching to guys outside of California and in other states and other countries around the world, and I’m also a trained sex therapist. But … Read more

Gay Men and Appearance Privilege: What It Is, What To Do About It

November 19, 2019 by Ken

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Gay Men and Appearance Privilege: What It Is, What To Do About It Imitation and Flattery? Recently, I discovered that a gay men’s specialist therapist in Chicago had posted a string of postings in recent months on Facebook that directly coincided with a string of topics of several of my blog articles and podcast episodes … Read more

Gay Therapist Reviews “Florence Foster Jenkins” (2016): Shrink at the Movies

March 13, 2019September 5, 2016 by Ken

[SPOILER ALERT: SOME PLOT POINTS REVEALED] For readers who are unfamiliar with this series, “Shrink at the Movies” is a not-very-consistent string of essays (ponderings, I like to call them) from my point of view as both a licensed psychotherapist in California (Licensed Clinical Social Worker, or LCSW) and as a life-long movie fan. Being … Read more

Gay Men’s Relationships: Overcoming Cultural Differences

January 6, 2020April 2, 2016 by Ken

Cultural differences in gay men’s relationships are themes that come up frequently in my practice of therapy for gay male couples. If you’re in a relationship (particularly a new one) with a guy from a different ethnicity, nationality, or culture from yours, or know someone who is, you might find these tips helpful. In addition … Read more

A Gay Therapist Discusses Gay Men and Tattoos: Ritual and Meaning

February 13, 2023December 28, 2015 by Ken

In my private practice as a psychotherapist who specializes in working with gay men, it was a surprise to me when several years into my practice I noticed a pattern that gay men like to talk about how the tattoos they have hold special, even profound meaning for them. When I first opened my private … Read more