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Four Ways to Help Gay Men with Depression

June 20, 2019September 11, 2018 by Ken

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Gay Men and Depression: Four Strategies for Help As a specialist in therapy for gay men for over 26 years, by far the most common problem that I see in my office is about depression. I always joke that if the Eskimos supposedly have 23 different words for snow (wet, dry, new, old), we need … Read more

How Gay Men Can Face Any Problem: Developing Resilience – Part 2: Techniques

May 17, 2020January 19, 2017 by Ken

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How Gay Men Can Face Any Problem: Developing Resilience – Part 2: Techniques In Part 1 of this article, I shared some of the traits of resilient people that have been described by Susan Dunn, in her “Top 10 Attributes of Resilient People”, among others. Resilience is the ability to adapt and grow from adversity, … Read more

A Career Coach’s 9 Tips for How to Make More Money

September 3, 2019June 11, 2015 by Ken

One of the biggest questions that guys have about their careers is how to make more money. Women wonder this, too, but my psychotherapy and coaching practice focuses on men (gay and straight) and I know more about those dynamics. Even though there is certainly a social injustice about men, in general, getting paid more … Read more

Gay Men’s Mental Health: 5 Tips for an Optimal Spring/Summer

July 19, 2019April 22, 2015 by Ken

Gay Men’s Mental Health: 5 Tips for an Optimal Spring/Summer Spring has sprung! Spring is a nice time of year for many people, because things like the doldrums of winter can be shaken off and the spring/summer seasons can usually bring a lot of nice things like sunshine, outdoor socializing, extra daylight to work/play in, … Read more

Gay Men Keeping Perspective: Quality of Life for A Place in History

May 18, 2020February 13, 2015 by Ken

Many factors affect your quality of life, just day-to-day. But one tip that I have used that helps me, and the clients I counsel and coach, is to keep perspective about your personal life, your work, and your social life in an historical context of the age in history in which we live. Many people … Read more

Gay Men’s Success in Building a Business or Self-Employment: If You Build It, They Will Come

May 18, 2020January 19, 2015 by Ken

One of the things that I do in my practice as a specialist in therapy for gay men (27 years), as well as career coaching for gay men, that most other therapists don’t do, is that I provide career and business coaching sessions (in my office, over the phone, or over Skype) for guys who … Read more

Beyond New Year’s Resolutions: Gay Men Making Real Life Changes

December 29, 2019December 31, 2014 by Ken

Gay men making real life changes goes beyond making new year’s resolutions. While “resolutions” are a bit a of cliche, where for many of us, the motivated and desired changes you make January 1 fade by the time February comes, making necessary changes is a hard process, even when we realize it’s important to make … Read more

Gay Men’s Depression Coping Guide

March 24, 2020August 26, 2014 by Ken

Depression is the number one mental health problem in the world and gay men, lesbians, and bisexuals are up to twice as likely to suffer from depression as heterosexuals – not because they inferior human beings (contrary to some religious teachings and other oppression), but because the cumulative stress of heterosexism and homophobia in society, … Read more

Finding Mr. Right in Gay Men’s Dating: The Six Lights Theory

September 8, 2019September 24, 2008 by Ken

In my private practice as a psychotherapist, I work frequently with gay couples seeking conjoint therapy to address a variety of challenges in their relationships. In my practice in therapy for gay men since 1992, I have come to notice certain consistent patterns in what drives conflict between either long-term couples, or couples who recently … Read more

7 Ways to Take Care of Your Financial Self – Now and for the Future

February 7, 2020January 23, 2005 by Ken

Part of my initial assessment as a psychotherapist for gay men examines their current financial security, goals, fears, risks, and rewards. Our finances contribute to how we perceive our external environment, and they affect mood, feelings, behavior, and relationships. Since starting in practice as a gay men’s specialist therapist in 1992, I have observed certain “true-isms” about guys who have it together financially – regardless of their income bracket. What is the connection between good financial habits and coping with depression and anxiety? Here are some time-honored tips: